The Energy Dance
Mastering Power, Presence, and Surrender
Advanced 2-Day Relationship Training
You know how in relationship, there is often one person pulling for more in the relationship and one person resisting? One person coming forward headstrong and one backing off? One reaching out and the other shutting down or withdrawing?
Sometimes this pattern can look like one person criticizing and complaining, and the other disappearing into non-presence or distraction. One wants more togetherness and the other wants more space. One wants more sex and one wants less. Regardless of the particulars, this pattern has everyone feel disconnected, dissatisfied and hopeless. In the long run, people quit engaging with each other at all, and resign themselves to live unfulfilled relationships.
Sometimes this pattern can look like one person criticizing and complaining, and the other disappearing into non-presence or distraction. One wants more togetherness and the other wants more space. One wants more sex and one wants less. Regardless of the particulars, this pattern has everyone feel disconnected, dissatisfied and hopeless. In the long run, people quit engaging with each other at all, and resign themselves to live unfulfilled relationships.
This energy dance in relationship is a delicate, powerful, and passionate one. And most often, it's totally out of balance. We meet so many couples and singles who are not able to find a harmonious way to express their feminine/masculine forces and consequently find themselves frustrated, shut down, and in constant power struggle.
Here's
what it's all about: The Energy Dance. You could say it is dance
between Yin and Yang, or between the masculine and feminine forces. We
say it is the dance between power, presence and surrender.
Depending on who you are, there is a predominantly feminine or masculine force, or essence, that is wanting expression through you. When this force isn't understood and trusted - in your partner and yourself - it either has to be repressed or expressed as a battle between you.
When you find the delicious balance between these forces, you can surrender to your own essential force. When you both find the balance in this ancient dance, you will have found an ever regenerating battery that will fuel you for life and keep the passionate electricity alive between you.
It is just like real dancing. When you have two leaders or two followers, or dance partners reluctant to dance, there is mayhem and power struggle on the dance floor. But when you have one leader and one follower at a time, flow and magic are possible!
Imagine how powerful it will be to discover another way to energetically move in relationship! Pullers learn to let go and resisters learn to come forward. The intimacy AND spaciousness that result are moving beyond words!
It is just like real dancing. When you have two leaders or two followers, or dance partners reluctant to dance, there is mayhem and power struggle on the dance floor. But when you have one leader and one follower at a time, flow and magic are possible!
Imagine how powerful it will be to discover another way to energetically move in relationship! Pullers learn to let go and resisters learn to come forward. The intimacy AND spaciousness that result are moving beyond words!
Some of what we'll cover:
- What we communicate non-verbally with our body
- How lack of surrender calls for a lack of presence
- Why criticism backfires and produces withdrawal
- How the push-pull imbalance gets created
- How to find the balance-point in the energy-dance
- How to surrender powerfully
- How to energetically "hold" a partner without being "bossy" or controlling.
- How to deal with someone pulling back and "going away"
- Tapping the infinite energy available in the masculine-feminine meeting
- A clear understanding of the energy dynamic
- Specific ready-to-use tools to live in your power with your partner (current or future).
- And lots more....
Audrey Roumiguere
"My partner and I just completed our third workshop with Christian and Sonika: The Energy Dance. The "dance" analogy is a good one; as I now understand (in my body as well as my heart) that a successful intimate partnership calls us to the same level of personal awareness and balance that a flowing, free and passionate dance partnership requires. When one of us loses our sure footing or our willingness to "lead" or "follow" then the dance starts to fall apart. I now feel ready to bring that same willingness and embodied awareness along with gentle compassion and sense of humor to learning this partnership dance; one I've stumbled in a great deal. Sonika and Christian, together and individually, create a very safe environment for deep, transformational work. For me this also included the support of everyone in the room; they know how to bring a group together in a shared vision. I love this work!!"
"My partner and I just completed our third workshop with Christian and Sonika: The Energy Dance. The "dance" analogy is a good one; as I now understand (in my body as well as my heart) that a successful intimate partnership calls us to the same level of personal awareness and balance that a flowing, free and passionate dance partnership requires. When one of us loses our sure footing or our willingness to "lead" or "follow" then the dance starts to fall apart. I now feel ready to bring that same willingness and embodied awareness along with gentle compassion and sense of humor to learning this partnership dance; one I've stumbled in a great deal. Sonika and Christian, together and individually, create a very safe environment for deep, transformational work. For me this also included the support of everyone in the room; they know how to bring a group together in a shared vision. I love this work!!"
Fran Carbonaro
"Thanks Christian & Sonika ~ I loved your recent workshop! It was a wonderful experience creating a deeper understanding of, intimacy with, and appreciation for my partner... we both stood in our power and in our surrender ~ yes you can do both simultaneously! Your coaching style is "all in" as you are really tuned in to all the workshop participants creating a very safe environment energetically that allowed every one to feel very comfortable in sharing their situation, struggles, and questions. The exercises you incorporate are fun, useful, and enlightening. It was great to see your ability to coach each couple on their unique situations, as well as the overlapping issues that we can all use fine tuning on. It's awesome to "realize", through your coaching in this workshop, things that are seemingly insignificant that can be tweaked for great & significant changes in relationship."
"Thanks Christian & Sonika ~ I loved your recent workshop! It was a wonderful experience creating a deeper understanding of, intimacy with, and appreciation for my partner... we both stood in our power and in our surrender ~ yes you can do both simultaneously! Your coaching style is "all in" as you are really tuned in to all the workshop participants creating a very safe environment energetically that allowed every one to feel very comfortable in sharing their situation, struggles, and questions. The exercises you incorporate are fun, useful, and enlightening. It was great to see your ability to coach each couple on their unique situations, as well as the overlapping issues that we can all use fine tuning on. It's awesome to "realize", through your coaching in this workshop, things that are seemingly insignificant that can be tweaked for great & significant changes in relationship."
Jill Bernard, Healing Artists of the Sacramento Region
"Thank you very much for the wonderful workshop last weekend. You two have an incredibly effective and loving method of teaching relationship concepts that make them easy to understand and easy to put into practice. The combination of discussions along with the exercises makes for a powerful combination to help integrate your work into our lives. For me I have an increased awareness of what it takes and means to be a better husband, partner, and friend. I look forward to the next workshop! With thanks and gratitude,
"Thank you very much for the wonderful workshop last weekend. You two have an incredibly effective and loving method of teaching relationship concepts that make them easy to understand and easy to put into practice. The combination of discussions along with the exercises makes for a powerful combination to help integrate your work into our lives. For me I have an increased awareness of what it takes and means to be a better husband, partner, and friend. I look forward to the next workshop! With thanks and gratitude,
Frank Berg
"Attending the workshop this past weekend was inspiring. I love the way many of the exercises gave me a chance to play with roles I don't often experience with my sweetheart. It made me aware that I want more of those experiences in my relationship. Thank you for the work you do and for modeling what a relationship can be. I feel as though I have found a couple who are living love and know how to communicate that to others. I'm looking forward to more workshops with the two of you."
"Attending the workshop this past weekend was inspiring. I love the way many of the exercises gave me a chance to play with roles I don't often experience with my sweetheart. It made me aware that I want more of those experiences in my relationship. Thank you for the work you do and for modeling what a relationship can be. I feel as though I have found a couple who are living love and know how to communicate that to others. I'm looking forward to more workshops with the two of you."
Joanna Emerson
